BODY LANGUAGE: READING AND SENDING THE SIGNS BY WOMAN
Body language is ever so helpful. It is the primary tool to indicate that your hormones have just started overdrive. It can also give excellent piss-off signals. Your body articulates everything without you having to say anything. For our purposes, it is essential that you have a good understanding of your body language and the fly you’re trying to lure into your web.
The first thing to remember when trying to attract a man, or anybody, is to keep your body language open. That means no crossing of arms. Keep your shoulders down. Keep your body relaxed, and people will assume that you are relaxed. If you look tense, people will think you are trying too hard. Always remember (even if you’re pretending) that you are doing them a favour. Don’t be scared.
After some practice, you may notice that when you fancy someone, your foot has a funny tendency to point towards that person. The same compulsion may come over someone who fancies you. Nature’s compass.
While we’re on the subject, have you ever noticed that when a man is on the make, mainly if he sees a filly he’d fancy in his corral, he links his thumbs in his belt loops like a cow hand out of a lousy B-movie with his fingers pointing towards his nether regions? Well, he does. And if he doesn’t, it’s likely that his hands are hidden away in a pocket somewhere, still pointing.
If you are holding something, particularly of a phallic nature, a nail file, a cocktail stirrer, a pen, or a vibrator, point it towards him. Apparently, it has the same effect on men as their little have you noticed that I have a penis? Look, it’s right here where I’m pointing gesture is supposed to have on us.
Give him a look. You know, the one where you stare at him until he notices and then look away briefly like you’re shy. Then you look at him again, lingering three seconds beyond good manners and dropping your gaze down to his lips and then down to his trousers, whereupon you bite your lip and sigh and look back at his face, big-eyed. Repeat this, or a variation on the theme, for about five minutes, once every thirty seconds. One study found that this technique hooked 60% of men within ten minutes. If he ends up being far less juicy close-up than he was across the room, you can always say what Demi Moore said to Rob Lowe in About Last Night; ‘I wasn’t looking at you. The clock was above your head.’
Well, now you’ve tempted him from across the room. Don’t stop with the eyes. You’re too shy to stare at his face. Try making eye contact with just one of his eyes and then focus on the other after a few minutes. It gives the illusion that you look deeply into his soul when you’re just counting his eyelashes. Another recent study found that complete strangers who stare into each other’s eyes for two minutes reported a passionate feeling akin to love after only a two-minute eye up.
Granted, all of this staring can be a little disconcerting. When you’re conversing, you may find it easiest to look into his eyes and then look away coquettishly. Give and then remove your attention. It all has to do with that little bit of tease. Don’t forget how much they love the chase. While you’re butterflying your lashes prettily, try to stand, at most, eighteen inches apart. Psychologists claim that the likelihood of two people standing this close having a sexual encounter is high.
Use any excuse to touch him. Physical contact breaks down far more barriers faster than talking ever could. Touch his arm to emphasise a point. Grab his wrist to look at his watch. Imply familiarity and intimacy will follow.
Always smile and act interested. It doesn’t really matter which bit you’re interested in.