HOW TO AROUSE A MAN
Ignorance about love play and how ably to respond to the husband’s sex invitation is a major factor that drives a man away from her, hence the knowledge of sex. Had she learned about sex and loved play during her youth, the problem would hardly have surfaced. Love play induces the flow of love juices, from the vagina which can flow only when a woman positively responds, prepares her husband, and keeps momentum with his tempo. To maintain the momentum and keep it up the same to a high-pitched crescendo is every woman’s duty.
It should be borne in mind, that once a husband has been excited, or if he himself gets excited, he may not be able to prolong and sustain his erection beyond thirty seconds, prior to his reaching a climax. So, never over-stimulate your husband, otherwise he will ‘come’ much earlier than you, even if you are still in the process of stimulation.
As soon as you notice a ‘pick-up’ in the man, slow down your stimulation technique, and divert his attention to some other topic, or else he will reach his orgasm, leaving you in a state of agitation and frustration.
HOW TO PREPARE YOURSELF
Right from the time of courtship, you will gather fairly good ideas as to how your fiance would like you to dress up, what colors prefer, what hairstyle he prefers which parts of your body, he feels, could prove instrumental in sexual arousal, what type of fragrances he likes, besides his certain preference for some food items, drinks, etc. In our country, there is hardly any aspect like courtship, though would be coupled freely move, study, go to movies, dine together, discuss matters which are of common interest. It is a sort of dating and flirting, with no promise of marriage. You can flirt with as many men as you wish but you can’t marry all of them. So, when a woman decides to choose her fiance, she must carefully watch his varied interests, likesdislikes, desires-aversions, and above all his preferences.
Before you meet your husband, make sure that:
• You have taken a fresh bath with some pleasing soap. Your private parts and armpits should not give out any foul and nauseating smell. Some men are so much sense to the foul odor of their body that they will never get a ‘turn-on’ howsoever attractive and sexy their wives may be. Properly shave your pubic and labial area and armpits. Use some lavender, after a bath (or else perfume).
• Your hair should be styled in such a way that should catch your husband’s fancy. Some ladies use fragrant hair oil and adorn their hair with flowers. Take care of what your husband prefers. It is a matter of habit for some men to play with and fondle the hair of their spouse. Don’t forget hair also excite a person, if your hairstyle is according to his choice and fancy.
• Never burden your body with heavy clothes. Dress up in a see-saw dress, where your beauty and body organs are amply exposed. The dress should be convenient but must match the preferences of your mate. Certain men desire to disrobe their spouses gradually, by way of the strip at-ease, method. So you should wear a sort of dress which is transparent, provocative, attractive and light. Some men get an instant ‘turn-on’ by the mere revelation of their mate’s breasts and sex organs. It is up to you, and you alone, how you could manage to arouse his sensuality. Some men prefer their wives to wear only thin and transparent nighties, out of which all the organs are easily visible. It is, required by men who are ‘quickies’ and don’t wish to wait even for a moment to get on to the job.
• Often change the color of your dress sometimes black, at times red, white, or pink.
• Avoid using bras and underpants. But keep in mind how your husband would like you to dress up if at all.
• Exchange some notes and pay compliments for his figure and manly body (even if he has neither).
• Men do not want to waste time in above said interludes, so don’t overplay in eulogizing your husband who is restless to enjoy every bit of your body, (or say the whole of you) and if you ever tried to distract his attention he may become fierce enraged, or else withdraw from the lovescene. But never forget to compliment him on the size & shape of his penis which is a sign of his manhood, even if the facts point out to the contrary.
INITIAL ACT
After taking care of the preliminaries, mentioned above try to caress and kiss his penis. Try to induce him to love-making in the real sense. If your spouse relishes some slang words for sex organs, don’t hesitate to use them occasionally. In the English language, the four-letter word “Fuck” is often used for intercourse. Use this word profusely and often, as its use often arouses excitement in both spouses. Some women are far more experts in using rough words and slang words which do convey the sense but are not often used.
CARESSING OF BODY
Women are more adept in the art of cuddling a man than men know how to caress (cuddle) women. A man is more a genital-prone person than a woman who can be aroused after great efforts. You have to simply caress his penis as quickly as you can. You should tantalize him for one or two minutes by stroking squeezing and tickling him, by slapping his buttocks, thighs, chest, and stomach. Do all this for a short period only, but focus your attention on his primary area of interest— his penis—which is the be-all and end-all for his sexual arousal.
Don’t wait for the moment when both of you are in bed. You should spring a pleasant surprise by initiating yourself into love-play—unzip his pants or trousers, and slip your hand inside his underwear. An element of such a sudden and unaware act will land him into ruptures of joy. If, however, the husband shows any sort of aversion or scare, lead him to a doctor for proper counseling.
Very few women spend time learning the art of stimulating the penis. This is an art that requires sustained practice in order to master the skill, as it is a delicate and deft art. To say that men, who abhor or resist the action of penis handling, are ignorant about early days masturbation is simply self-evasive. There is hardly any man who has not, even once masturbated during his premarital days. And, let there be no doubt, that those husbands who masturbated in their youth/adolescence, would not continue masturbation even in old age. Hence, most men, in fact, like their wives to play with their penis but simply pretend as if that was a novel experience for them. To substantiate the opinion we heard some men, in Western countries, love and prefer to have their penises mouth-fucked by women/wives than actual intercourse even. Similarly, there are many women, here and elsewhere, who prefer to have mouth-fucked.
It is a fact that men prefer and love, rather like, their wives to handle, caress, and play with their penis, but it is important, for wives, to ascertain from their husbands, as to the duration for which they would like their penises to be handled and, more importantly, by which method. As a shy, newly-wedded girl may be a bit hesitant, but she, too, would catch her husband’s penis, in the moments of the extreme peak of sex arousal, by shedding her modesty or shyness.
Simply fondle the penis, by gently holding it, firming your grip gradually; but be careful not to hurt him, as the skin of glans is as soft as that of your clitoris. Don’t forget, your extra strong grip, fast speed, and sensitivity may cause immense pain to him, often resulting in some revulsive reaction or, still worse, asking you to keep away from his penis. This situation should be avoided by all women. Don’t be in a hurry to ‘start on’. Apply firm but sustainable pressure by holding the penis in your hand (but don’t squeeze as if you are wrenching out clothes), using a firm, but flexible grip.
The generally preferred method of holding the penis, either by an experienced or novice wife, is to hold the penis in your hand, by keeping the fingers on the man’s navel side and then towards his testicles’ side. Now start stroking his penis gently, gradually increasing the momentum, rising even to 300 strokes per minute, depending on the male’s choice. Gradually build up the sensation by this method. You can move your hand up and down in a rhythmic way in ascending order. Some men prefer to have their penis simply squeezed (by gentle hands) between thumb and finger. If your husband’s potency is flagging, you can reverse the process by keeping his thumb towards his tummy and fingers towards the side of the testicles with a less active (say right) hand.
Alternatively, you can cup the penis with your palm or hold it within the pads of your index finger and thumb, rolling the fingers to and fro. Some women prefer to hold the penis head with their fingers, and then move them in clock or anti-clock motion. You can also pull back or pull down the penis, and then let it spring back. Some women hold the penis in between the soft flesh of their breasts and, with the help of hands, rub it to arouse erotic sensations of high magnitude. This method can be best done by squeezing the penis between the breast. The said position can be modified by bending your head forward so as to lick the penis with your tongue.
The more skilled woman would put the penis in the armpit and squeeze till complete arousal is attained. The more sexy woman would cause arousal by touching the penis against her clitoris, and rotating in on the clitoris itself—this method should be practiced over those men who can hold on and control their passionate sensation, otherwise, it may even hasten quick ejaculation. Other women have a fancy for putting the penis between their buttocks. Before doing so, care should be taken, rather it should be ensured, that the anal portion is absolutely germ-free failing which chances of infection are always bright. Lastly, some women stimulate their men with their hair or simply hold it in their hair, and then they stimulate by bringing their fingers over hair and moving them furiously.