HOW TO ENHANCE SEX DESIRE
It is not always possible to enjoy a coital climax—the reasons vary from person to person. An astute operator keeps his technical know-how fully updated, he equally cares for the upkeep of the apparatus he is handling. Instead of passing on the blame to any other person (in a sexual context, say your wife or woman), first, weigh your own self, have a full self-appraisal, and after finding out the lacuna, try to mend the fault.
You should be more conscious of what your partner is averse to, hates, dislikes, or abhors. She has her own problems, perhaps, and when such problems compound both should sit together and discuss every minute point. Let there be no element, not even an inkling of taking the other partner’s views as amiss. Try to understand and appreciate the problems of your female partner.
The husband (or any male for that matter) should keep the following guidelines in view:
- Remain tension free. Never attempt any coitus when the mind is disturbed. You will do well to disclose your problem to your wife, take her into confidence and seek her advice.
- Intercourse should always be done in an airy, neat, clean, fully ventilated room, free from any encroachment and disturbance. If both partners agree, let there be a dim red bulb whose red light will flare up passions and impart added enjoyment to your sex fervor.
- Ensure personal hygiene. Use deodorants, and scents to ward off foul-smelling body odors.
- Before sex, have a bath or at least, sponge your whole body, particularly your ears, nose, armpits, inner thighs, prepuce, and glans penis. Spray some pleasing scent on the whole body to enjoy an added erotic feeling.
- Give equal opportunity to your partner to have her own time. Never hurry her. Any act done in a hurry will take away the charm of sex.
- Never plunge you at once into intercourse. Foreplay should be an essential forerunner to any sex act. Foreplay is a reliable method to prepare your partner for the coming event. Let her also have her own way. Never act like a dictator or a superhuman.
- Persuade your partner. Appreciate and endear each and every organ of her body, even if you don’t have fancy to some of her organs. Tell her that she is not, in any way, inferior to any film actress. Such loving compliments and endearments would help her to active participation.
- Aggression, rough-shod treatment, demeaning, slighting, or insulting will have a rebound reaction, resulting in an imposed coitus.
- Excite her gently, carefully, slowly, and tenderly. If she resists and forbids you not to touch any one or more of her sex organs, abides by her wishes and never force your way to compel her to mental withdrawal and physical inertia.
- If, for any reason whatsoever, she is disinclined for a sex act, you can lie down together and discuss some subject of common interest. The chances are that during the course of the interaction, she may get ready and herself invite you for a sex act.
- Try to avoid sex during the advanced stage of pregnancy, during menstruation, or when she is having leucorrhoea. But the sex act must be given a goodbye, if either of the partners is suffering from Aids, HIV any venereal infection, asthmatic bout (attack), high fever, or any infectious/ contagious disease.
- Fondle, caress, cuddle, kiss, pamper each and every erogenous zone—but very slowly. During the course of foreplay she, herself, would guide you, as to which sex organs she wishes, rather prefer, to be touched.
- Give an equal chance to your partner to indulge in a sex act. She should play an inactive role in the whole play, and successful intercourse ensues from the joint efforts of both partners.
- If you are about to reach the climax, you should let your partner know a bit earlier so that she could help you to delay orgasm, by adopting the ‘squeeze the tempo’ method. Moreover, she will also get mentally prepared to face the problem of early ejaculation.
- After you have reached your climax orgasm, you should never leave her in between. Wait till she also reaches her orgasm. You should not ever prove to be a selfish sex performer, as her sentiments deserve to be respected.
Above mentioned points deserve to be modified as per mutual consent and convenience. Indian women are shy and reserved, they rarely give vent to their feelings, and this is more true of those women who are confined within four walls of their house. So, both partners should try to respect each other’s likes and dislikes, desires and aversions, physical compulsion and constraints, to enjoy the real bliss of sexual intercourse.