Marriage and Sex
It is generally asked whether a man or Woman does have to necessarily get married in order to enjoy sex or had every man or woman been much happier, had they not been bound by wedlock. It is also asked whether marriage is merely a social formality or a way to attain a more respectable place in society or else is not ‘marriage a necessary (social) evil’.
The answer to all the above mentioned apprehensions and conceptions depend on the culture of society, we have been forced to live in. Free sex was commonly prevalent in olden times, when either sex had no regard for society and social norms. As civilizations advanced, due to necessities of life and other persons, men and women felt compelled to leave their native place and migrate to other zones for better living conditions. Society is simply a human being’s own creation and certain rules were framed for being practiced to live a better, healthier, more civilized and organized life, where better openings were available. Every human being is an inseparable part of the society, in which he lives; hence individuals and societies cannot and should not be viewed in isolation. If one is the body, the other is its soul and vice versa.
There is no society, where only men or women exist. No society can ever exist without men and women, as a society is meant to serve the individuals who constituted societies as per their needs and comforts and framed rules and regulations. When certain persons failed to live within the framework of a particular society, they left the same and craved out another society which could serve their ends better and meet their expectations and demands. Though, the topic pertains to sociology, it has been dealt with here because the restriction is the main irritant that makes or mar society. It created rebels or protestants, who did everything which was prohibited in and by their parent society.
It is natural for humans tract to find out what we lack. Man and Woman, simply due to their variable physical forms and distinct body organs, got attracted to each other, even when social order was a far cry. Their mutual attraction gave way to sexual union, whether before or after marriage. Had there been no reciprocal attraction and weakness for the opposite sex, there would have been no human growth on Earth. Not only human beings but even all animals are equally fascinated by the mere sight of a member of the opposite sex.
Marriage is a solemnization of the relationship between a man and a woman. Whether it is a civilized society or in cultured primitive society, sex remains to be a common factor. A reputed columnist was once confronted, during the the course of a T.V. interview, as to why he dwelt and reveled in sex in his writings, the scribe shot back: “Had there been no sex between your parents, you wouldn’t have been here”. Howsoever, we may criticize sex or view it with a tainted or jaundiced eye, none of us can contest the established truth that sex is one of the stronger (if not the strongest) urge and desire of human beings. Had there been no sex, there would have been no progeny on earth.
In Hindu society, the birth of a son is deemed an auspicious occasion for the simple reason that he is a propellor of the dynasty. But, the million-dollar question still evades a suitable reply as to whether could there be a birth of a son, had there been no girl, and the answer is quite simple. It is only the girl, who can bear a child, be it a son or daughter.
Husband and wife do not make a family, as the family has no existence without a child. It is the child, who makes a man father and a woman a proud mother. So, without going into the unnecessary dynamics, as to whether a son is superior to a daughter or vice versa, let us admit, without fear of being contradicted, that both are an inseparable part of the family, as men can cause conception, but cannot conceive or give birth to any child.