ORGASM
Are there any techniques to delay orgasm?
Many techniques have been used to delay orgasm. Many commonly used methods include mental arithmetic, local anaesthetic ointment, and wearing a disposable tissue and a condom around the penis to decrease sensitivity. Other methods include:
- Voluntarily interrupting and restarting the flow of urine repeatedly.
- Vajroli mudra and Ashwini mudra.
- The squeezes/stop-start technique.
How does one go ahead with these exercises?
Identifying the pelvic muscles is simple. Just voluntarily interrupt and restart the flow of urine. These are the muscles you need to train. Once identified, try contracting and relaxing these muscles five times, thrice a day; increase the frequency to ten times in the next week and then 15 and 20 times in subsequent weeks. Continue repetitions thrice a day 20 times for four to six weeks. These exercises can be done while standing at the bus stop, in the office or at any other time. After contracting the pelvic muscles, one should hold them for about 3 seconds before relaxation and 60 or 70 of these exercise manoeuvres in a day can lead to benefits in six to eight weeks’ time.
Are there any exercises for enhancing male sexual performance?
Exercises to strengthen the pelvic muscles (chiefly those surrounding the penis) help to achieve better control over the orgasmic reflex, improve the quality of orgasm and also increase the circulation of blood in the pelvic area, perhaps leading to better erectile ability.
Which yogic exercise helps delay the climax?
The Vajroli mudra and the Ashwini mudra could be of help in the treatment of early orgasmic response. In Vajroli mudra, a person sits in any comfortable meditative asana, places his hands on his knees, closes his eyes, relaxes and breathes through his nose. After a deep inhalation, he holds his breath and tries to draw the sexual organs upward by pulling and tensing the lower abdomen and contracting the pelvic muscles. These contractions are similar to those when one has the urge to pass urine but wishes to hold on for some time.
In Ashwini mudra, a person sits in the Padmasana (lotus position) or any meditative pose, relaxes the whole body, closes the eyes, inhales deeply, holds the breath, bends the head forward and presses the chin tightly against the chest (chin-lock position). He then contracts the anal sphincter, relaxes, and repeats this procedure a few times. Then he extends the neck (unlocks the chin), exhales and simultaneously relaxes the sphincter. These yogic exercises strengthen the anterior and posterior parts of the pubococcygeus muscles, respectively.
When done ten times every morning and evening for six to eight weeks, such exercises often lead to adequate control over the orgasmic reflex. Sometimes, the practice of contracting the anterior part of the pubococcygeus muscle just before orgasmic (ejaculatory) inevitability during coitus helps delay the orgasm (climax).
ORGASM AND ROLLER
If arousal takes place without release, it is likely to cause discomfort. That discomfort can best be handled through the mutual expression of care and affirmation.
If you are a woman who consistently experiences arousal without release, you must share this with your husband. Let him know what your body feels like so that the two of you can move closer together. There can be some relief even in being reached out to. He needs to know what you need.
What about multiple orgasms?
A woman’s body is designed to have another orgasm at any point in the resolution phase. It can be five seconds or fifty minutes after the previous orgasm. There is no waiting or rest period necessary before she is physically capable of experiencing another orgasm if the stimulation is continued or renewed. Her body does not need to return to its prestimulated state before being responsive again. This is not to say that having more than one orgasm is better, or those sexually ‘together’ women will desire this. The point is that, physically, if she desires it and can allow it, the woman’s orgasm can be repeated indefinitely.
FOR THE MAN
After orgasmic release, the man returns rather quickly to the prestimulated state. His erection may not decrease completely, but the penis is usually somewhat flaccid, and the testicles are lowered. There is a loss in the tension build-up and in the intensity of the feelings. Some men report that the glans or head of the penis becomes very sensitive to touch after ejaculation and that because of this, they want to quickly disengage from their partner. The man may not have told this to his wife because he feels uncomfortable or embarrassed about it. It is important to know that many men feel this post-ejaculation pain. If you experience this discomfort, it is crucial to share it with your partner so that she is sympathetic and understanding rather than taking your withdrawal as a rejection.
It is rare for a man not to experience orgasm. However, there are some men (especially older men) who do not need an orgasm and who do not feel frustrated without one.