Women At The Middle-Age
Here is the true test of physical capacity grit and determination of a woman, when she has to grapple with problems relating to her children, husband, elderly and/or incapacitated persons, financial problems, social obligations, and her own health problems. The situation becomes more complex when, in addition to the above-mentioned problems, she has to attend some job at school, college, office, etc. The Lady of the house, in most middle-class families, generally undergoes the following physical and mental problems:
• Headache and backache; pain in cervical portion, neck as a whole, shoulders, arms, etc.
• General fatigue, exhaustion, weakness, malnutrition, anemic conditions, dyspnoea, some cardiac problems, impaired digestion, constipation, loose motions, or dysentery.
• Breathlessness even on the slightest exertion.
• Agitated temperament, anger, reclusion.
• Menstrual problems, leucorrhoea.
• Considered as a partisan by all the inmates; gets socially cut off and, thus, suffers in solitude.
• A lady suffering from nymphomania has to encounter more grave problems, for the simple reason, that she won’t find her husband ready to meet her sexual urges, on demand. She will continue to focus her entire attention on sexual gratification when, if not enjoyed, will drive her to despair, violence, pervert, or even self-gratification methods.
• Feel mentally tortured and physically overtaxed, resulting in a breakdown in general health.
• Inability to meet her husband’s sex demands, as she is often not readily available for the sex act or as and when desired by her husband. She may even become frigid or ‘Cold’ which factors are held responsible for the break-up of marriages.
• Family circumstances often aspect here work output after the place of work, consequently she may suffer pangs of conscience due to loss of job or demotion, resulting in acute financial ruin and loss of face.
• Sleeplessness or disturbed sleep pattern. There are certain families where ladies have been seen to suffer from most of the above-mentioned disorders.
There should be no ego or status, class or one’s superior family syndrome, both partners should learn to reconcile and accommodate each other’s views, and allow enough sense of mutual accommodation to take precedence over uncalled-for ego status clash. Mutual amity, understanding, respect, and consideration are and should be the basis of a harmonious, happy, and smooth life. Be satisfied with what you have and never waste your time and energy on an object which lies beyond your control. Try to consolidate the gains you already possess, instead of running after a mirage. You will simply become a nervous wreck and lose your mental peace and equilibrium if you are unrealistic. So, do not buckle under stressful conditions of your life, instead learn to cope with the present situation. You cannot change or reform the entire universe, but you certainly can change your attitude, reform your habits and face the oddities of life with a determined and cheerful will. Self-introspection will enable you to search your conscience. Draw a proper balance sheet and try to rectify your errors, if any.
Medicines are not going to take hold of you unless your mind rests in peace. If the mind is disturbed, the body can’t have any peace, and it is true otherwise too. Medicines can help you to win over a stressful state but problems will surface when the effect of medicines has exhausted. You cannot depend on medicines always, but you can certainly change your outlook to constructive and optimistic sides. There is no person, who is not confronted with one problem, whether mental or physical or both.
Before concluding, it is necessary to remind middle-aged ladies that, leaving aside all the fads, myths, and religious restrictions, they must ensure for themselves a nutritious diet that should suffice to meet the daily requirements of their body’s demands. If the diet is fully balanced, most of the diseases can be set at rest, but when the diet is not properly balanced and deficient in essential nutrients, some other diseases may also follow— some of which can be termed as ‘food-deficiency disorders’. Always accord proper time to work, diet, and rest—let not one aspect be sacrificed for the other aspect.